Read time: 5 minutes Most people are terrible at distinguishing irony from a coincidence. Irony is something being the opposite of what you intended and at times, humorous. Coincidences can be cooler because two events aligned in an unassuming way, reminding us that we're all connected on this large world. This isn't about needing to accomplish something great or revolutionizing your life. In the days that have passed us, how often did we remember that we exist?
It's nice to stop sometimes to bask in a wonderful occurrence. Whatever it is, it’s making you conscience of every blink because the moment is so beautiful or painful. Like the beauty in colliding water ripples or when everyone at a table is sharing the same belly-churning laugh, reminds us that we're alive.
One of my best friends got married this past weekend. Some of her new in-laws flew in from Nigeria for this. As her father-in-law spoke graciously on blessings, marriage and family, I was struck by how his words resonated the values instilled upon me by my own parents. I was so grateful to be alive at this moment, to be able to witness a new marriage that ironically felt like an age-old union.
I was maybe seven when I experienced my first “out of body” experience. When for no more than 30-60 seconds, your mind feels detached to your body and self and you’re trying to swallow the idea of being you. You wonder how you carry out your daily activities because suddenly being you feels foreign. If this isn’t making sense to you, it hasn’t happened to you or I’m doing a terrible job of explaining it (likely).
The light turns red and everything around you is blurry, all you see is this red light you know will turn green soon. It being red allows you to look into the sky, with the passing cars in your peripherals, and you feel tiny. Feeling small is one of my favorite feelings because it reminds me that there's so much more to general life than my own life.
When someone passes away, I ironically feel alive.
Trying to empathize with someone else's pain is an emotional drain I have learned to appreciate. Maybe you’ve never lost a parent but you want to rip your lungs out and give it to them because you have nothing else to offer.
Every time I allow myself to post something I write, no matter how not ready it is, I at least feel alive by putting my series of words onto the internet.
Coexistence is when you’re in a room full of everyone sharing the same musical experience as you, and you’re all just glad to be there. You dance with zero thoughts, you just do. It doesn’t matter what it looks like.
You run into someone unexpected unexpectedly at an unexpected place. Those are the best, even if the person you ran into is the worst.
A long drive with windows down, at the ideal speed where you can both breathe and allow your face to feel the wind.
When the radio plays your favorite song, it sounds much better than the song coming from your own phone. You let the entire song play out and relish each word.
Climbing up to the Lincoln Memorial, I couldn't help but lose my breath in the "holy-shit, slavery was a real thing". Those people existed, just like I do right now. I was silent for several minutes. I voted for the first time as an 18 year old and the person I voted for became President, the first black President. I couldn't even yell with excitement because that moment was so awe-ful, consuming me with silence.
What silences you can also allow you to exist.
You learn that injustice is real, like when you watch Lion King for the first time. For the first time, you’re okay with a movie bringing you tears because you’d have to be Satan to not cry when Simba loses his dad. And if you were a child then, you learn at that moment what hatred feels like because Scar was just pure slime.
Sometimes, a stranger is kind to me. I'm kind to a stranger. When you pay it forward, you're never really sure what “it” is you’re trying to pay for because there are so many blessings to choose from.
No one else cares about your life the way you do so be mindful of your existence, but mostly because it's fun.