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If a moment is special, you want to relive it with everyone close to you. I want people to know when I get engaged but I don’t want them to find out the same way they found out I made thai curry the other night…via Instagram. There is something wrong with me if my instinctive reaction is to open Snapchat every time an artist is about to perform my favorite song. If my best friend has a baby, I don’t want to belittle her profound creation by posting the baby's picture on my Facebook before he’s even 12 hours old.
There is a level of courtesy most of us have lost a grip on with sharing the excitement of our lives.
If you are really happy for your friend’s engagement, baby, marriage, or new job, take a moment to get their permission before sharing with your world. Life events are incredible beyond the quantified measure of “likes” and impressions.
There is nothing wrong with sharing your life and sharing those that are in it. We’re using these platforms correctly but you also have to consider what drives you to that moment you post something. I have to wonder: is my Snapchat story a series of clips from the festival because I want others to feel like they were there with me or I just want people to know I make time for this? Or: Did you post a picture of an engagement proposal because you were drowning in tears or because you want to be the first to let others know?
One of the craziest thing I do is update my eleven Spotify playlists multiple times a week. More than having perfectly curated playlists, I thrive on discovering artists as early as possible because each addition has a dated timestamp. I can’t deal with getting a Jawbone/Fitbit/Fitness tracker because I know that level of quantification of my day will always leave me defeated. Is this not the most pathetic behavior?
Here are five things I use everyday. How and why do I use these?
Spotify - Although I love seeing what my friends are listening to, I could probably have eight less playlists. I need to maybe not freak the F out on New Music Tuesdays first thing every Tuesday morning.
Snapchat - No more than 2 out of 88 people actually cared that I was re-watching Batman Beyond on My Story. This app singlehandedly prohibits me from being mindful at concerts or letting a cute baby do its thang. Since I personally have a problem, I have deleted it. But I do think this is one of the best apps and I’m glad people use it. I’ll miss you little ghost!
Instagram - Standing in line to get coffee without mindlessly scrolling through this is near impossible. I sometimes reopen this app immediately after closing it because I’m a first class problem. I still see value in having an online portfolio of intimate moments, good eats and cool things so I periodically download and peruse then delete again. So, this is only somewhat psychotic.
Facebook - I use Facebook a healthy amount, probably no more than an hour or two a week. You can stay, old friend.
Twitter - I also use this a normal amount (though the first four years my brain thought in “tweets”) and without Twitter, I would know 0% of important events/tragedies/teenage slang.
I don’t use addiction or lack of restraint to describe myself but my habits with my apps have decreased my appreciation for beautiful pictures, attention span and general self control over the past few years. Not all of us need to start deleting apps but I have two main points to consider: